I just read an article on Slate that I found quite interesting.
Usually the choice is to go Dutch or Old-School. The problem with the modern Dutch style has some serious problems in the mind of the Old-Schoolers. It can be cold and unfeeling. There's nobody giving in the relationship or really anything that separates things from simple friendship. Not that I'm dating much, but I think I have another option.
The problem with Dutch is the lack of any giving. The problem with Old-School is that it is only the man that is giving, or "providing". People do like to give, and just splitting the bill doesn't make things feel like you're a team. Instead, why not have the woman take the whole bill some of the time, and the man take the whole bill at other times. Don't plan it out or go every other time. That is just as bad.
Chivalry isn't just for men anyways.
You are going to be a lonely old man with that attitude.
ReplyDeleteI am a 50 year old woman and when I was dating (way back in the dark ages 30 years ago) I paid my share of dates - and expected to. Why wouldn't I? Anything less is an insult to both of us, in my opinion, but then I'm a long-time feminist.
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